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Hi Friend
A friend sent me a gift that I'm not a fan of, and she asked me what I think of it. I don't know how to respond because I didn't like the gift, and truthfully, I wouldn't want anything like that again in the future.
How can I respond to her without hurting her feelings?
Not a Fan
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Hi Not a Fan
It isn't easy to think of the perfect gift to give someone, or to tell someone you don't like what they've given you. This situation is tricky, but it sounds like you care about how your words affect your friend - and that is a good thing.
It is common for empathetic people to feel hesitant to express their thoughts, especially when they hold an opposing opinion. Saying something negative can feel impolite or even offensive. However, that is not entirety true.
Expressing opinions aggressively can hurt someone's feelings, but expressing it assertively is actually important.
When you are assertive, you express your thoughts and opinions honestly and openly, while at the same time respecting others' needs and feelings.
You should be able to explain your opinions, without feeling like you're attacking the other person. Keep in mind that since this person is a friend, slle'II want to know your likes and dislikes, and would probably feel more hurt if you kept lying to her about her gifts.
So as you approach her, remember that being assertive and communicating clearly with your friend is a crucial part of building ａ healthy relationship.
Here is a general guide you can follow for your conversation, but feel free to choose the steps that work best for you:
- Start by thanking your friend for her act of kindness, and ask about her intentions behind the gift. To open up the discussion, you could say, "You are so thoughtful. What made you think of me?"
Listening to your friend's explanation could also tell you what gifts you could give her in the future.
- Once you understand more about your friend's decision, you can take this opportunity to express your thoughts in an honest and respectful manner.
- Give constructive feedback, and don't just focus on disapproving comments. Tell your friend what you enjoy in a gift
Do you prefer practical presents or decorative ones? Are there specific brands or cartoon characters you really like? Are there items you'd never buy for yourself, but would enjoy as a gift from others? Or maybe you dislike gifts entirely and would prefer to spend quality time with your friend instead.
Remember, friendships aren't solely built on shared similarities, but also on differences: Whatever your preferences are, just make sure you communicate them.
Best of luck, Friend of a Friend
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HI Friend
I love art, as it's an important source of relaxation for me. But recently, I've been experiencing a major creative block, and can't think of anything to draw.
For the past three years, I've been practising, improving and exploring my artistic style, but now I don't know what to do next. I want to expand my skill set - I've been watching You Tube tutorials for advice, but I get frustrated with them quickly.
How can I get over this block?
Chip Off the Old Block
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Hi Chip
Creative blocks are a common challenge for many artists, even the most famous ones. And after working on your art for three years, it makes sense that you'd have difficulty thinking of new content.
Take a step back, and reflect on what art means to you. As you mentioned, art is a way for you to relieve stress. For many people, art enables us to express our inner feelings and thoughts, and it can take our minds off stressful situations.
If art has been causing frustration for you, maybe focus on enjoying the creative process, rather than on the progress of your skills - at least for a short time, until you feel ready to return to those YouTube tutorials. Releasing yourself from the pressure of constant improvement might help your creativity to blossom again.
You could try looking for inspiration in a new environment. Whether you go for a scenic hike, visit a new neighbourhood, or go to an art museum, changing your setting can provide the new ideas you need.
Something else that could help with your creative block is making art with other people. Being inspired by other artists can reawaken your own passion. You could also try teaching art to younger kids, shifting the focus from your own progress to helping someone else learn.
Be patient with yourself and your art. With time and maybe some exploration, this creative block should pass.
Hope this helps, Friend of a Friend
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