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Dear Boy in Love
Regardless of sexuality or gender, it is never a good idea to date a teacher. In addition to being inappropriate, the age difference and power imbalance can be very harmful. The younger person risks being coerced into doing things they don't want to do or are uncomfortable with, and this can have lasting mental, physical and emotional effects. 、
It is also unwise to tell him that you have feelings for him. This would put both you and your teacher in an incredibly awkward position. Rest assured that it is very common for students to have crushes on their teachers, and don't get angry at yourself for it. Teachers are kind, confident, knowledgeable and passionate, and it makes sense that you would admire them. Your teacher likely enjoys being your teacher and appreciates having you as a student, but they cannot have anything beyond a professional, school-based relationship with you, and they only like you in a non-romantic, teacher-student way. Carry on like normal at school and continue to be polite to this teacher, and don't do anything to make him uncomfortable. It would also be helpful to keep your distance when you can, and make surethat you're not going out of your way to spend time around him.
In the meantime, you can examine what it is that attracts you to this person. Is it simply their good looks, or are they charming? Are they a good listener? Perhaps they have a great sense of humour. Make a note of what you find important so that you can look for a partner with these trarts in the future, when you're ready to date.
As you mentioned, you are getting ready to take your DSE exams. finish secondary school, and maybe head off to university - these are all huge changes. Focus on these things. They might seem scary, but they're exciting too, and they will help you take your mind off your crush.
Please do not be afraid to speak to a professional about how you are feeling. Your school should have a guidance counselor, so take advantage of it! You can also contact organisations like the Tugn Wah Group of Hospitals Pride Line, Mind HK, or Open Up.
We know that your feeling s seem very strong now, but they will fade in time, very likely after you no longer have this person as your teacher. In the meantim, focus on your DSEs, your friends, and your future. We promise it will be worth it!
Hope it helps, Friend of a Friend
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