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Dear Friend,
I always get frustrated and jealous of my friends and am always in a bad mood no matter what. I feel worried about everything. I don’t like feeling like this, but I can’t control it. What should I do?
Best, Restless
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Dear Restless,
Negative emotions like jealousy, frustration, anxiety, fear, hate, anger, and sadness are completely natural. However, long-lasting or intense periods of these feelings can make us dislike ourselves and others, reduce our confidence and self-esteem, and interfere with our ability to accomplish our goals.
These negative emotions can stem from a wide variety of sources. Sometimes they are the result of specific experiences or events, but they can also stem from underlying issues like insecurity or feeling like you don’t belong, as well as relationship problems or inadequate coping skills.
Here are a few things you can do the next time you’re feeling jealous or
worried:
– Recognise and acknowledge your emotions. Try to identify the source of these feelings and what triggers them, so you can prepare your coping skills in advance. Do you get jealous when your friends talk aboutthings they buy, their good grades or their significant others? Do these emotions come from something they point out to you, or is it usually something you notice on your own? What unfulfilled need does this bring up in you?
– Talk to someone you trust, because this can help you make more sense of your feelings and figure out what underlying psychological need is causing them.
– Learn how to manage your stress. Relaxation exercises and meditation can help you to improve your mood, or at least teach you how to let some things go.
– Try some pleasant activities like reading, walking or listening to music. Make time to do things you enjoy or try something new.
– Exercise! It can provide an emotional lift and an outlet for negative feelings.
– Make it a habit to notice and focus on what’s good in your life, no matter how small it is. It may help to write these things down so you can review them when things are tough.
If you continue to have trouble overcoming your jealousy, frustration, anxiety and sadness, seek medical help as soon as possible. In some cases, these persistent feelings might be a sign of a mental health condition such as depression or anxiety.
Hope this helps, Friend of a Friend
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