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Dear Distant,
Since we spend so much time with our friends and they are essentially our chosen family, it can be difficult to realise you are growing apart from someone or that you aren’t as close as you used to be. These things happen, sometimes for a reason, and sometimes just because. It doesn’t make it any easier, of course – just know that you are not alone.
In response to your request, here are a few things you can do:
Take care of yourself
Intense emotions, like distrust or anger, can bubble to the surface due to the change in friendship. It is always a good idea to give yourself some time to settle down and process the situation. Don’t stop doing what you enjoy – you might be tempted to because you are feeling depressed – but doing your favourite activities will help you calm your mind and deal with your feelings.
Feel what you feel, and don’t put yourself down for it. However, you also need to accept that your friend has their own feelings about your relationship, and you probably can’t change them.
Talk to your pal
Does your friend realise that the two of you have grown apart? Was it intentional? It could be worth sitting down with your friend and having a heartfelt conversation about your relationship. Don’t blame them for the change; just mention how you feel.
It could be that your pal has been dealing with something they were too nervous to talk about, which made them distance themselves, or that they didn’t realise the two of you have been growing apart. A nice chat might clear things up between the two of you.
Keep an open mind
Just because you two have grown apart, it doesn’t mean your friendship is over – it’s just different. The two of you still have your experiences together, so treasure those memories and how they made you who you are today. Friendship is constantly evolving, and even if the two of you aren’t close now, that doesn’t mean it will always be that way.
Tell your friend that you will always be there for them, but give them the space they need to make their own decisions. In the meantime, focus on yourself, your family and your other friends.
Hope that helps, Friend of a Friend
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